At Renewed Life, Toby and Sussan believe that strong marriages are built through intentional preparation. Mr & Mrs Equipped was created to help couples prepare not just for a wedding day, but for a healthy, resilient and lasting marriage.

Their distinctive dual therapist approach begins with individual sessions, offering each partner the opportunity to explore personal values, expectations of marriage, family of origin influences and emotional patterns from both male and female perspectives. Toby works with one partner, providing insight and guidance from a male perspective, while Sussan supports the other from a female perspective, creating space for honest reflection and clarity before marriage.

These individual insights are then brought into joint sessions, where Toby and Sussan work together to help couples align values, strengthen communication, navigate conflict and establish shared vision for married life. This integrated process equips couples with practical tools, emotional awareness and relational foundations that support long-term connection, teamwork and commitment.

BECOME EQUIPPED WITH THE RIGHT TOOLS FOR MARRIAGE - SO YOU DON'T HAVE TO REPAIR IT LATER

OUR SERVICE INCLUDES

Individual Values & Identity Sessions

2 x 90 Minute Individual Sessions (1:1)
Women meet with Sussan and men meet with Toby

These sessions support each individual to explore:

• core values and belief systems

• personal triggers and emotional patterns

• identity awareness and expectations of marriage

• family of origin influences

• who you are individually and who you are becoming together

This creates self awareness and clarity before entering joint sessions and marriage

Dual Therapist Model

All joint sessions are facilitated by both Toby and Sussan, providing:

• balanced male and female perspectives

• deeper understanding of relational dynamics

• clear guidance around roles, responsibility and partnership

• a safe and structured space for growth

This dual therapist approach is a defining feature of the Mr & Mrs Equipped program.

Communication & Conflict Frameworks

Couples are guided through practical frameworks including:

• Healthy Words communication tools

• Love & Respect dynamics

• Fight Clean conflict repair strategies

• emotional regulation under pressure

These tools are designed to be used for life, supporting couples to navigate disagreement without damaging the relationship.

Emotional Release & Nervous System Regulation

The program includes a dedicated session focused on:

• identifying unresolved emotional baggage

• understanding how past experiences impact intimacy and conflict

• learning nervous system responses within relationships

• participating in the NSR Clean Slate process

This ensures couples enter marriage without carrying unresolved emotional weight into the relationship.

Vision, Goals & Direction

Couples are guided through the VAK Goals framework to:

• establish a shared vision for marriage

• align expectations around family, lifestyle and future goals

• strengthen partnership through collaborative planning

• create practical steps to prevent relational drift

Between sessions, couples receive:

• guided reflection exercises

• communication practices

• values and expectations discussions

• practical tools to strengthen daily connection

These practices help embed learning and support long-term relational stability.

Discounted Follow-Up Support

Couples who complete the Mr & Mrs Equipped program receive:

Priority access to additional sessions at a discounted program rate, should further support be desired after marriage.

Pre Marriage Preparation Sessions.

5 x 90 Minute Joint Relationship Preparation Sessions (2:2)
Delivered in person or via Zoom with both Toby and Sussan present

These sessions are designed to equip couples with the skills, awareness and tools needed to enter marriage intentionally and confidently, focusing on prevention rather than repair.

Sessions cover values, identity, communication, conflict, emotional regulation and shared vision for marriage and family life.

This pre marriage program is designed to equip couples with the skills, awareness, and tools required to navigate married life intentionally and confidently.

No one gets married planning to divorce.

Most couples simply enter marriage unprepared.

This program focuses on prevention rather than repair, helping couples build a strong foundation before challenges arise.

"Love gets you married.

Preparation keeps you married"

VIDEO TESTIMONIALS

“Tried traditional therapy before and nothing ever stuck. Having two therapists in the room changed everything for us.”

“I had brought a lot of past hurt into my relationship. Releasing it from my nervous system was the light bulb moment for me.”

"Going into a new relationship I knew I had baggage. After the nervous system release, everything became clear. It was like the light came on.”

"we tried retreats, but as you said all the resentment has to come out of the nerous system before you can move forward"

“When you showed me my past patterns were repeating, it actually made sense. After the release session I felt brand new.”